Thank you mystery stranger for having the courage to deface these LGBTQIA posters around my friend’s school because she was too shy to do it but is now immensely grateful for the change
Seems to be asexual and/or aromantic.
His half brothers make fun of him for not having found a woman he likes more than his hair, and he seems content to keep it that way. He also has no qualms about taking an oath of celibacy, and is, in fact, eager to join the Night’s Watch (where one must be celibate.)
(suggested by: http://fractalthoughts.tumblr.com/)
u know nothin fictionalaces
Asexy until his constant sexysexathon with Ygritte in A Storm of Swords during which he introduces the Wilders to the concept of cunnilingus.
Real posterchild you got yourselves there.
Yeah, sorry to piss on the parade, but Jon definitely talks about his only barrier to sex being an intense fear of siring a bastard, who would then live a life at least as miserable as his own.
and being with some body.
— Della Hicks-Wilson
it has been brought to my attention by a few people, even after i have approached this artist about not seeking to write in my same exact style with my same exact creative dna, that they continue to persist in doing so. i understand as artists we find inspiration in each others work. i understand that folks will find inspiration in my work, and that may sometimes translate into adopting some things. i think as artists we do this as we journey into the voyage of our own voice and creativity. and so. i sought to make peace with how closely this artist chooses to model their work next to mine as best i could. then most recently, this poem was shown to me. i had a visceral response. because it was like looking at my own writing. like looking in a mirror. this artist is now utilizing my exact phrasing and usage regarding the period- the only punctuation i use in my writing (besides the rare comma or parentheses). using the period after the first word. or as a comma. as a way to highlight a word or passage. to stop and restart in mid sentence. and also as a double meaning. is a very unique birthmark of my work. it is not something that is utilized by many, if any, here on tumblr. i will say, it is not something i have seen anyone else do (even this artist, as we did follow one another at one time). this does not mean i am the only one to have ever done it on the earth. i say this to say, i am the first poet i know of here in the tumblr writing community/ or that i have come across in reading others. and with my work having become very visible here, along with how closely their writing resembles mine, i have come to the conclusion that this artist is highly invested in continuing in this manner of adopting my creative identity and structure into their work in a way that is boundary crossing, consistent, and unsettling. here is my concern, as a new writer in the world at large, it is important that my creative identity be associated with me. as it is mine. my breath. my expression of craft. my energy. if this artist continues to adopt my lingual and grammatical usage so closely, and publishes work that so deeply mirrors mine, how will readers know whose is what. or who this specific style originated from. how will they know that the structure and bones of writing that come from my being. are mine. what i have honed and birthed. also, how long will this continue with this artist. and will it end. i understand that this is social media. i understand that people are inspired. i understand that others do not hold my beliefs around creativity, art, and respect for the artist. but when does someone mirroring your art/ your work so closely, cross the the line and become infringement of your work. - nayyirah” (via nayyirahwaheed)
This is the most self-involved bullshit about writing style in poetry that I have ever read. Over the use of a period? Plagiarism is one thing, but the use of a period? Please excuse all other writers now for nayyirah waheed has a claim on the fucking sentence fragment
creative boundaries are a reality. plagiarism is a reality. and yes the use of a period in writing, just like any other tool in art, matters. how we use these tools as artists, are our signature to the world. to you be your way, to me be mine.
It makes me said to see this have to go down between fellow creatives. As much as I appreciate both solve-coagula and nayyirahwaheed, Nayyirah’s right, the use of periods, commas, and sentence fragments, especially in the specific and hallmark way that Nayyirah is known for using them, is a tool. And if Della Hicks-Wilson is now all of a sudden using those same periods and fragments in that same way, Nayyirah’s saying she believes it may not just be taking notes from her, but something more. No one can claim a sentence fragment as their own, but the way Nayyirah uses them is very distinct and very her own, and for Della to be writing in the same exact way Nayyirah does goes beyond just adopting some of other creatives’ practices. Nayyirah’s not accusing, condemning, or demanding that anyone, or Della, stop or start doing anything, she’s bringing up a topic she thinks is important for the whole of creative society on here and as a rule for creatives in general, and I think she was right in how she approached what she sees to be this issue (and I think she’s right, it is an issue.)
Steups. So sick of this petty bullshit. Fighting down for the usage of a period. Well yes. Jackasses all of you. You should feel a sense of pride that your writing has influenced and inspired others like the great roman poets of old used to before hand. Get a grip. Writing is an artform that cannot claim specific ownership. It is forever available for readers to be inspired by. Y’all need a fucking reality check. If you don’t want to inspire people stop posting your bloody writing.(via one-valhalla)
no. to being juxtaposed with the literary ‘manners’ of the ‘great’ white roman writers. no to theft as inspiration. no to death of the artist. no to an artists work not belonging to the artist, but to the world. no to total lack and disregard of the artist. no to total disrespect of the artist. none of these interest me. none of these are a truth to me. none of these are valid or legitimate ways of addressing or honoring art. to me. and as this is MY work, and MY experience, how i feel about the plagiarism of MY work, is the only and most important voice in the matter. how i feel is complete. your acceptance, approval, or validation are not necessary.(via nayyirahwaheed)
You are one of the greats my love. Or at least you are becoming one. I apologize for my harsh response. But still. There will come the time where you will have to accept this. That you and your writing. Influences others to become great. No. They should not plagiarize your work. That is in itself wrong. They can however choose to follow the precedent you have so wonderfully set. I am sorry you feel this way. But I hope one day you will understand that you’ve opened doors, opened eyes and minds. You are an inspiration. Be proud of that. Don’t chastise them for stealing your style. Instead ask them and yourself: what was so profound abt the way I wrote that made them/ you want to mimic it. And if you can’t do that. Well say what. You’ll always see them as a theif and you the one unfairly stolen from instead of the one blessed with being able to reach another mind and show them a way that they couldn’t reach their own.(via one-valhalla)
to you be your way. to me be mine.(via nayyirahwaheed)
"Be proud people admire you so much they are willing to steal from you."
I have taken a hiatus recently from the world of tumblr as I found myself becoming too opinionated on topics I had no right to weigh in on, however the exchange above really riled me. Firstly being mimicked or copied is a very painful experience and this is not just in writing, as a scientist when other scientists use similar experimental designs, or lay out aims like you, or even just borrow the way you present your work for publication, it is painful. And this is a scientific community where I would love people using the results and inferals that I concluded upon in their own work (with citations or recognition).
The claim that somehow Nayyirah’s desire to have her own voice and style to be explicitly hers something egotistical, is unfounded, unwarranted and most dangerously unsympathetic. I think cynicism and criticism becomes such a big way that people get their voices heard on a forum quintessentially based upon your opinions that it dulls people’s ability to critically evaluate and sympathise with posters. Your voice is yours, your style of writing is as unique to you as a fingerprint is, we all have experienced life differently, we have all read books that even if similar are not exactly the same and so whilst complete originality is impossible the want for somebody to not steal your writing style (that’s what we are discussing here not inspiration) is a very reasonable desire.
Personally, I sympathise with you Nayyirah, I understand how infuriating it must be for somebody to write like you and how that must be amplified because language, words and prose are your work, they are your passion your love and arguably they make up a very big piece of you. I think that whoever is writing as you should figure out that whilst some writing moves you to mimic is disingenuous to the poet who’s work you loved and secondly to your own voice. Anyway that’s my two cents.(via phantom-pupil)
Yes yes and yes.
The thing with imitation is that it is essentially a theft of your essence. Because it is theft of something intangible, unless you have fallen prey to it you don’t understand it. An artist’s signature is their creative autonomy. Often as artists, creative autonomy is all that we have outside of the work that we produce. It’s like someone stealing an invisible child. It cuts deep. Keep writing sis. Salt is out there - from what I gather it has taken years to find your voice but now that your voice has found you it’s not going anywhere. Keep producing. Your work speaks for itself and people recognise your spirit within your signature. Some people are essence suckers with vampiric tendencies. The universe is telling you to pray for her. People who do this regularly have not made peace with who they are and are therefore comfortable with theft. It’s one thing experimenting in order to find your voice but to model your voice on the voice of another is something else entirely. Keep doing you. Sending love.(via missmarysmusings)
Making a name for yourself and carving your own lane isn’t easy and it’s frustrating when somebody steals your artistic style, even literary style. It’s ok to be inspired - to be given life but to imitate and mirror someone’s style to the point where it’s indistinguishable is a form of theft and not complimentary. Salt and where it came from is very important.(via tapiwamugabe)
"I am uncertain as to what tore open a dimensional. pathway. between this world. and whatever multiverse. you "people" came from. but please share with me the coordinates so that I may plant… and detonate. a thermonuclear device. at its location. o.m.f.g.s.t.f.u. period. comma. ellipsis, semi-colon, full colon, colonoscopy." — purplemonkeysexgod69(via purplemonkeysexgod69)
to you be your way. to me be mine.(via nayyirahwaheed)
ideal hogwarts students:
- aromantic wizards being absolutely immune to amortentia, it only smelling like the ingredients put into it when they smell it, and teaching other students how to identify the stuff on any food or drink
- gender confused ravenclaw leafing through glossarys of pronouns and accidentally getting 80% of the class to stay up leafing through similar glossarys, screaming out pronouns in the common room when they think they found one that may fit
- slytherin students sometimes taking polyjuice potion to pose as one of their depressed members who was having a bad day and really couldn’t bring themselves to classes
- kids who read about the second great wizarding war and, when reading about Severus Snape’s brave acts, argue “well yeah ok but he was kind of an asshole still?”
Girl # 1 : I’m bisexual but I’m also misandrist. Haha yeah fuck all men! They’re all the same. They’re all privileged, cheaters, sexist and perverts!
Girl # 2: I’m a lesbian but I hate bisexual girls. Fuck all of them! They’re privileged, cheaters, sluts and heartbreakers! They’re whores just faking it to get a guy’s attention. Ugh. All they do is use you.
Girl #1: OH MY GOD how dare you generalize us?!? We’re not all like that!! Why are you discriminating against us? Biphobia sucks!
Girl #2: Okay first of all, unlike me, you can be in a straight relationship, so with that you already have straight privilege. Second, all bi girls end up with men anyway. So what is the point? Third, if you care so much for the lesbian community, maybe you should tell ALL bi girls to stop using us, stop cheating on us and stop breaking our hearts. But I’m one hundred percent sure that’s never gonna happen. My experiences with you people tell me otherwise. You are all the same.
Girl# 1: NO WE ARE NOT. STOP GENERALIZING!!! BIPHOBIA SUCKS! GRRR! HOW DARE YOU?!?! YOU ARE HATING ON US FOR NO REASON!!
Feminist does not equal misandrist, but if you are both bisexual and misandrist, understand what you are saying and what you are doing. If you have the right to exclude, hate and discriminate against a certain group, why the hell would you complain when a biphobic lesbian does the same to you? Isn’t that just hypocritical?
oh my fuckign god can everyone on the aromantic tag please shut the fuck up about valentines day THE WORLD IS NOT CATERED TO YOU, SHOCKING I KNOW
So how is it then that when you want entire minority groups to exists a certain way its “freedom of speech” for you to be allowed whine and complain but when they voice their opinions its not allowed?
the fuck are you talking about
are you sure you reblogged the right post
"oh my fuckign god can everyone on the aromantic tag please shut the fuck up about valentines day THE WORLD IS NOT CATERED TO YOU, SHOCKING I KNOW”
That post, among others (as in, the one you just reblogged). You basically (Actually explicitly did) just told them to shut up while stating how they should act.
Also: that ask you got where you were asked to stop tagging things as “ace safe” when they are a) harmful to people, and b) you hate that term, so why perpetuate it?
A shame really, your blog would be worth following if it weren’t for:
- Your stance about who is Asexual
- Your stance on the aromantic/asexual spectrum
- Your stance about who is Transgender
- Your stance on various nonbinary peoples
Which is sad.
We know the world is not catered to us
Y’know how? 8D
I’m gonna tell you.
There is a holiday. For romantic couples. Deemed as the single most important holiday for romantic couples. Actually, single most important holiday for relationships. Because all relationships are romantic, obviously! You would only need a Super Special Day for the best relationship ever: your romantic partner! How awesome is that?!
Except it is the single most isolating thing when you are aromantic. Valentine’s day is everything that aromantics are insecure about wrapped up in one overly hyped symbolic public declaration of love.
It consistently reinforces that romantic relationships are the single most important relationship in a person’s life. A day for friends does not exist, or if it does it is not socially acceptable. There are no “dates” for friendship. If you are “dating” a friend, you are in a romantic relationship with that friend. That is what society tells us. Society also tells us that your romantic relationships are more important than friendships. The general advice is “oh, once they get a romantic relationship, everything changes.” The number of times I’ve heard that my friends will get distant— for YEARS— because they have a romantic partner is staggering. And, yes, in some cases, my friends do get distant. The only ones who don’t, really, are the ones who put in a massive conscious effort to still include me.
But wait! There’s more!
Aromanticism is defined as not feeling romantic attraction. This means, surprise!, that aromantics aren’t going to feel this “wonderful” thing called romantic love. It is not within them to actually feel. Therefore, you have this huge holiday for a type of attraction that leaves out a proportion of the population who do not get it. And this “leaving out” is very much literal. Because it is the day where you take your romantic partner out, not your queerplatonic partner out. It is the day mushy, romantic couples are seen as the ideal.
Can you see where this is going?
A whole day.
Where there is nothing at all.
For a group of people.
Whose friends are the best relationships in their lives.
Aromantics already feel alienated enough in this world. Posts like this are exactly the reason why.
Just because you are something, doesn’t mean you can help contribute to the systems that oppress others who don’t fit in exactly the same box you do.
We’re finally getting to your ask, grumpy relationship advice bearkin.
Like Lion said, talk to your girlfriend about it. We can’t magically come up with a way for you to eat venison and not upset her. We can suggest meat substitutes! Like tofu! But we can’t be like “yes just eat the venison”. Talk to her. Work out boundaries and whys and see if maybe she’ll let you try it.
Good luck, bud.
Today in gender studies class we were talking about trans people and I mentioned that their exclusion of non-binary people was triggering to me as a nonbinary person. Then my professor (a white feminist, big surprise) goes “You were born female and you present as female correct?”
And I said yes, because I do and there are many times in my life when I am female, but other times when I am non-binary. Aka, I AM FUCKING GENDERQUEER.
And then my professor says “well this article is about MtF transsexuals so maybe we should talk about your personal issues after class”
Like yes, let’s erase non-binary genderqueer people because the big fucking white woman said so. So I called her out and I told her this was an oppressive class that was an embarrassment to the institution. She told me to please leave class and come back when I was ready to talk like an “adult”
AN ADULT. How much more fucking tone policing can you get? The minute I speak for genderqueer/non binary people I’m a child. So I told her “fuck off cracker” because at that point I honestly did not have a choice, I was seeing red.
Now, I’m on academic probation and I have to take a “tolerance” course after class. TOLERANCE. Because I care about oppression and social issues. IS THIS REAL LIFE
All right, y’all. I’m about to shit on all your favorite franchises. Keep in mind I don’t think you are a bad person for liking these things (I am a huge hunger games fan) but you CANNOT like something and not even fucking TRY to examine why it is problematic.
- only gay character is not “out” until after the end of the book.
- heteronormative relationships
- no fat people who aren’t seen as “jokes”
- escapism into wizard world attempts to erase realities of oppression in the human world
- racism/sexism is not depicted, which erases the identities and experienced of oppressed POCs/women
- Rampant cissexism
- no POCs (or at least no important POC characters)
- “innocent flower” depiction of white women
- obsession with transphobic ideal of virginity
- sexualizes abuse and violence
- Bella wasn’t fat (this would have been a good opportunity for this tbh)
- Indigenous characters were werewolves, perpetuating the idea that POC = animals
- sexualizes pedophilia since edward is 107 years old
- no trans or genderqueer characters
- one of Bella’s admirers is a POC who she turns down
- offensive portrayal of autism
- appropriation of homoromanticism by two cishet men
- includes Benedict Cumberbatch, known racist and slavery apologist
- includes Martin Freeman, notable rape apologist and sexist
- Sherlock’s lack of a sex life is slightly appropriative of asexuality
- White saviorism
Game of Thrones
- encourages us all to hate strong women like Cersei
- mostly centers around white people
- glorifies rape and pedophilia
- misgenders Brienne of Tarth, who is genderfluid
- fetishizes gay men
- dehumanizes sex workers
- unrealistic depiction of dothraki
- fails to address atrocities of colonization (Daenerys)
- glorifies cultural appropriation (Daenerys)