if you cant pitch in for the 3ds xl for christmas either get me nothing or draw smithybob fanart. or write me fanfic of my fanfic. fanfanfic
Someone eloquent on the AVEN forum.
Unfortunately I forgot their name, but if I find the quotation again, I’ll definitely add the credit.
THIS IS ME! I swear my actual sexual orientation is “people who will never sleep with me”
I recently learned from
Black feministsstrugglingtobeheard and other feminists that we are appropriating this word. A Black feminist named Kimberlé Williams Crenshaw came up with the term intersectionality to talk about how race and gender intersect for women of color. It was never intended for white women to use to describe our own feminism or an allegiance with woc—or, worse yet, intersecting oppressions for white people.
We can be anti-racist, we can be allies, we can be social justice bloggers, but we are not “intersectional.” We don’t experience the intersection of race and gender.
The thing is Crenshaw never gets credit for coining this term and white feminists ignore the fact a Black woman invented it to describe her experience as a Black woman, and for other women of color to use. We as white feminists often use this term without ever engaging with Black womanists and Black feminists or other feminists of color, which constantly sidelining their issues, and being racist ourselves or not checking our privilege. Also, I’ve seen white women go to a desi woman’s ask box, when she was talking abou racist white feminists in her grad program and tell her, “oh it’s too bad there are no intersectional feminists in your school!” And she had to tell them, “nope they call themselves intersectional feminists, but they are still racist and throw woc under the bus.”
Some of us like to think if we call ourselves “intersectional” than we’re not like ~THOSE~ white feminists those ~non-intersectional~ white feminists, but that’s not true. We are white feminists—we have white female privilege. We benefit just as much from white supremacy as anyone else and we are just as able to be racist and exclude, talk over, invalidate or ignore woc.
I used to use this term for myself and I used to use this term to describe “intersections” of my oppressions. But this isn’t right. That’s not how the term was intended. And us white people steal too much shit from POC—especially women of color—ESPECIALLY Black women.
So let’s stop appropriating this term and give it back to the women who it was made for—women of color.
I couldn’t find it, but the first post I read on the subject was by strugglingtobeheard… I’ve looked everywhere for their post on it to link it in this post but couldn’t find it. If anyone knows which post I’m talking about let me know. They talked about a speaker’s event they went to where wthey discussed how white feminists using the term “intersectionality” was akin to white people playing rock and jazz…
I also apologize for not citing strugglingtobeheard as the primary source to begin with - that’s very white feminist and shitty of me.
I added gradientlair’s post, because that’s where I first heard the term contributed to Kimberlé Williams
wtf is this “i wanna punch a feminist” “oh yeah well IM A BIG STRONG MAN” shit
why is this being celebrated
what is your feminism if you are not talking abt the fact that op was talking abt WOMEN/implying that if someone ids as a feminist they arent rly a woman, in favor of fawning over mens’ displays of the very kind of masculinity (valuing physical strength, aggression, violence, confrontation) we are supposedly trying to tear down?? no. just, no. and fucking stop letting men think this is an ok way to act as a feminist! feminism is not a progressive new way to assert your masculinity! fucking stop this!
Ok so, I’ve never been in a real life situation where anyone of any gender defended me from my male assaulters, much less the men present at my assaults, so the idea that there are men out there, big strong tough manly men, who value my safety and the safety of anyone being threatened by antifeminists, that makes me really happy. To think that some day I might be attacked again and someone would actually step in front of me instead of sort of fucking off and laughing it away and leaving me to struggle against my attackers on my own? I really like that. I’m gonna celebrate that somewhere out there, some kid might not have to go through violent assault because one of these toughies is there to defend them.
So like, yeah, I do value physical strength, aggression, and confrontation. Those are female things too, those things can be feminine. I am all for redefining masculinity and femininity, and there are women who are appending their badass muscle pics to that post too. Strength and aggression and confrontation can be used responsibly, pro-socially, for instance: to defend and protect.
So seeing men step up and say “If you want to punch a feminist, punch me,” that sounds nice. That strikes me as laudable. I’d rather those guys—and some of those ladies— get punched than me. I’ve never had anyone get punched for me. I’d kind of like that.
I swear to god, if I see one more “ew, het” post about a ship involving a WoC and a white dude (who fandom usually ships with another white dude), I’m going to set something on fire.
…yeah, on second thought, I hate the ‘ew, het’ thing about (almost) any pairing.
'Cos you know what's revolutionary? treating women - especially WoC - like people, with agency, where they can have sex - or not - as they choose without it being a cause for judgement on her character.
Het that subverts gender roles (without treating it like a joke) is revolutionary.
Het that doesn’t follow the formula - you know the one - is revolutionary.
Het that doesn’t turn the woman into an idiot, or a simpering plot device, or a damsel, or a whore, or a bitch, or a villain, or a rarely-seen ‘no gay shit’ smokescreen, or a victim for the hero’s manpain… that’s revolutionary.
Het with non-cis characters. Het between PoC.
Poly het. Ace heteromanticism. Aro heterosexuality.
Het isn’t inherently ‘less subversive’ than queer narratives, because sometimes queer people can be in relationships that look like het. And there are a shit ton of other factors than “M+F” involved in real “het” relationships that media rarely - if ever - shows us.
I’m not saying that we don’t need more queer narratives. I WANT THOSE TOO. Ones that aren’t the Tragic Queer trope, or where bisexuality isn’t a dog whistle foreshadowing betrayal. Or etc.
My point is: this isn’t about “queer narratives versus het narratives.” This shit is intersectional - race, class, gender, dis/ability, etc all factor in.
But when I see discussions flattening the discussion into a single story - an either-or dichotomy where it’s implied that shipping a het pairing (esp one that does break the media mold in one way or another) is somehow ‘boring’ or ‘unimaginative’ or whatever… Then yeah, I’m gonna be a little mad.
'Cos 'diverse representation in the media' is way bigger than just our white dudeslash ships.
Heterosexuality is a life-creator. Heterosexuality is love. Heterosexuality is orgasms. Heterosexuality is cuddles and kisses. Heterosexuality is seeing your face and the face of your beloved become one in someone new. Heterosexuality is great works of art. Heterosexuality is beautiful love songs, from the opera to the opry. Heterosexuality is the dignified waning strength of an elderly man helping his wife to her feet. Heterosexuality is the look middle aged parents exchange as they watch their child walk down the aisle.
i guess?? i’ll admit i don’t have much experience with the housing market outside of nyc but i didn’t think i had to have knowledge of the entire international housing market to jump into a conversation that i thought applied to me as someone who’s been housed for the past two years only through the generosity of my friends—generosity that was aided by the, in my eyes, luxury of having extra space
whatever, i’ll bow out
yeah, you DO have to have knowledge about the international housing market before you talk shit to someone from the 3rd world about their middle class extra space decadence tbh
i was not “talking shit” esp considering the original post put forth an idea that i wanted to discuss because it applied to me but thanks for trying to turn this into an argument for literally no reason, thanks!!
(TW: eating disorders, anti-gay slurs, cissexism, misogyny, all sorts of douchebaggery)
This is my new least favorite website. From their “About Me”
"Return Of Kings is a blog for heterosexual, masculine men. It’s meant for a small but vocal collection of men in America today who believe men should be masculine and women should be feminine.
ROK aims to usher the return of the masculine man in a world where masculinity is being increasingly punished and shamed in favor of creating an androgynous and politically-correct society that allows women to assert superiority and control over men. Sadly, yesterday’s masculinity is today’s misogyny. The site intends to be a safe space on the web for those men who don’t agree with the direction that Western culture is headed. Click here to send an email to the team.
Women and homosexuals are prohibited from commenting here. They will be immediately banned.”
they should be fucking shot
people who should be castrated
they should not be shot. nor castrated. think about it.
they should be smothered in fucking love and compassion. possibly the only way they’ll ever snap out of it.
$50 says if you castrate/shoot them they’re bound to just build a nastier website.
don’t perpetuate the cycle. rise.
Thanks Amanda Palmer aren’t u a gr8 persun
Don’t you DARE say these men need “love and compassion”. Our anger is a legitimate reaction to all these sorts of sistematic hate perpetuaded by white cis het men. I REFUSE TO GIVE ANY KINDNESS TO SHITTY PEOPLE LIKE THEM.
We will not perpetuate the cycle. WE’LL SMASH IT.
watch the world go up in flames as an eye for eye leaves us all in a pile of cosmic hate-filled fire.
manifesto time, i think.
bryonykimmings …where are you?
I think we should be angry. But can you really fight hate with more hate? Doesn’t that just perpetuate the cycle?
yes. we can and should be angry. this website is mad cray.
"THESE MEN SHOULD DIE SLOW DEATHS/BE CASTRATED/MUTILATED" and those responding "FUCK YEAH"
is stooping right down to level of mindless violence and non-respect that this website is perpetuating. and it’s exactly the response that gives forward-thinking feminists a bad rap in as a bunch of maniacal “man haters”.
so yes. feel anger. share feelings. respond with truth. but don’t use wrong speech, or get violent. or say anything you wouldn’t say in the actual company of these human beings.
it still amazes me that some women think the correct response to this is “LET’S KILL THESE PEOPLE.”
really, ladies? would you call up the mother of the guy who started this website and say “hello, ms. smith, i think your son should be castrated and die.” ???
no. really. honestly. you wouldn’t. you’d be angry, but human.
so let’s please get our shit together and treat each other - yes, even the people like this - with dignity and respect.
golden fucking rule, people.
otherwise we all stay in the fucking gutter.
Amanda Palmer has been my hero since I was 13, I’ve seen her in concert five times, but I’m an adult now and realizing how fucking problematic some of the shit she says is. Like this.
'Rise above the hate' are you fucking kidding me. I will not 'rise above' anything I will obliterate those tools. 'Don't threaten them you'll just reinforce the man hating feminist stereotype!' Why the hell would I want any man around me that guzzles that kool-aid, or for that matter doesn't think my 'man hating' (aka FEAR) is justified. Not gonna cuddle these assholes into submission, really rather just eject them into the sun.
No Amanda, just no. I am so disappointed.
and i’ll say it again, and i’ll never stop.
rise above the hate.
it’s actually possible.
and it’s the way out of here.
you want out?
you want websites like this to go away?
you want everybody on the planet to be happy?
including this guy?
you wanting to “eject these people into the sun” will not help matters. at all. ever.
if you think it’s “not okay” for these men to use cruel, violent speech and awful imagery, surely it’s also “not okay” for anyone - including you - to do the same.
if you cannot see the connection between your violence and their violence, you aren’t looking hard enough for a real solution to the larger problem.
a problem that i think we can all agree we need to fix pronto.
For such an “open minded” group of people, tumblr is the most unsafe place ever for people who have differing opinions. The number of people who have been bullied so badly they’ve had to delete is disgusting and pathetic. If by being open-minded you mean “let’s repeatedly preach tolerance but then have zero tolerance for people that we have deemed evil for ignorant and misinformed reasons” then yeah, this is a great place.
a short intro to how i ship hannibal and will
"Queerplatonic is an internet neologism for a particular relational form. It describes relationships which are not romantic but nonetheless involve a an intense emotional connection beyond what most people now consider normal for a friendship."
"Individuals in a queerplatonic relationship may consider themselves partners, with a sense of commitment similar to what is seen in romantic relationships. Such relationships can be had in all different configurations, as well, as in polyamorous or polyfidelitous relationships. Queerplatonic relationships can be sexual relationships, but are always defined by intense but nonromantic attachment."
some people say there’s a red string that connects fated lovers
psa don’t look at the notes bc there are so many people completely missing the point that these are non-romantic strings of fate and making dumb jokes about where the red string “must be” and it’s making me really angry bc we can’t even have a good artistic representation of aromanticism without people desperately grasping for a romantic interpretation somehow