May 2013
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Dear straight girls with pretty nails
fondsdebouteille:
Hi. Hi. Your nails are beautiful, they really are. I LOVE the lace pattern, or the rhinestones, or the little pictures you’ve somehow drawn on your nails. Really, my femme self is squeeing about how pretty they.are.
But please, can you change your accent nail to something else? Or at least, please be aware that femme flagging on ring fingers is a thing, sort of, and that if I...
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burghole:
i-can-show-you-the-devil:
W-E is http://mentemmortaliatangunt.tumblr.com/ now in case anyone was wondering
l0l
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Harpy: What does your bracelet say?
Me: 'Asexuality exists'.
Harpy: Oh, so you're going to be the next virgin mary?
Me: ...No. That involves babies. Babies are gross.
Harpy: But that's asexuality, right? Cause no guy gets you pregnant...
Me: Uh. No. Asexuality is a lack of sexual attraction....?
Harpy: Oh. Whatever.
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rainbowhouseplant:
About a year ago I made a small, cheap, plastic beaded bracelet that says ‘asexuality exists’. I made it when work, and the world, were trying to tell me that /I/ didn’t exist. That I wasn’t valid simply because I wouldn’t join in vapid conversations about coworkers possible eligibility.
It’s the only bracelet that had grown worn, the string grown thinner with passing days. I...
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lifefull-of-insanity:
When people ask my what my sexuality is, and I say I’m heterosexual and then they’re all “oh so you like dick right?” Uhm I may be heterosexual but I am also Demisexual. so no; I don’t like dick, I like guys. Okay? Okay. But then I have to explain what demisexual is and ugh :/ ~I know it sounds stupid but it bothers me..~
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candyhorns:
So am I the only person who finds how multiples are told that they’re lying, what have you a minor form of #gaslighting ?
It’s people saying “your perceptions, your experiences are lies. They are not real. They do not count, and they do not happen. You do not know what is going on inside your head.”
I don’t know, I’m just rambling.
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About the creation of the term "allosexism" and...
metapianycist:
N.B. “Allosexual” describes a person who experiences sexual attraction to other people in a manner that is independent of preexisting attractions and possesses an intensity in a range regarded as normal. This term is used to distinguish this phenomenon from autosexual, demisexual, asexual and gray-asexual orientations. “Allosexual” has also been a term in use among the scientific...
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Can we just chill out with the "male vs female"...
classy-lass:
Can we just go with “oh look, this person is being abused/oppressed/hurt/wtv. Let’s help them.” Do we really need to bother so freaking much about what’s between their legs?
There is male privilege. And there is female privilege. They both exist. And, generally speaking, both genders perpetrate them.
Humanity is responsible for the tiny little boxes we have created for the sexes...
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Some ace-community and aro-community terms I don't...
metapianycist:
acephobia, asexualphobia, and other variations on *phobia (to describe an ideology of prejudice against ace-spectrum people)
The power of these terms relies on an implicit association of “mentally ill” and “violent,” which is harmful to people (including aces) with mental illnesses. Source.
Alternatives: anti-asexual prejudice, anti-ace prejudice, anti-demi prejudice (if...
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Ugh, I'm pissed off now.
minionier:
I have no idea what that anon thought demisexuality meant…but uh. The fact that I can occasionally be sexually attracted to a person once I have a deep relationship with hir doesn’t mean anything at all to how I behave, ESPECIALLY when I’m not experiencing sexual attraction in the first place
I don’t magically become consexual sometimes. Being demisexual means I am ALWAYS on the ace...
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andtheniwaskilled:
But seriously though there are these really annoying people in the “queer community” who stave off all criticism with accusations of being “divisive” under the conviction that all gsm people have to be this united cohesive group who forgive all intra-oppressive slights instantly for the “greater good” which basically means “white male cisgays get all the rights and white cis...
April 2013
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“I’ve also noted that some gay men seem to be the most suspicious of asexual...”
– Understanding Asexuality, from chapter 4
In which Dr. Anthony Bogaert conjectures about why the members of the anti-ace brigade (made up predominantly of queer allosexual/consexual people) hate us so much.
(via metapianycist)
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I like the word allosexism
cupcakemichi:
And I’m pretty sure it makes sense.
I think I’ll keep using it.
Allosexism (n) - The attitude or bias that favours sexual people and relationships.
EDIT: Looks like at least one other person is already using it! :3 Make it two! :D
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littleotherkinthings-andproblems:
[image text: “Otherkin problems: Wanting to dig, but tiny, unclawed human hands are too useless to dig with.”]
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I just learned two new words.
furry-furrets:
“Allosexism” - The attitude or bias that favours sexual people and relationships.
All this time I thought the term to use was “heterosexism”. It doesn’t quite sound as catchy as “acephobia” but I like it.
“Asexophobia” is the second word. It’s pretty much the same as acephobia actually.
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I'm asexual and I believe anti-asexual prejudice...
metapianycist:
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privilege and -isms and aces
epochryphal:
thinking about how i basically started my blog off a year ago trying to create a [allo-]sexual privilege checklist, and got super floundered factoring for grey and demi folks, for queer allosexuals vs heteroromantic ace-spectrum folks, blaahhh,
and i really like the discussion of allosexism a lot better
it is, way more productive to talk about experiences of prejudice and...
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fucked up how little we actually know about...
elphias-doge:
burghole:
burghole:
i wonder if they like food
#I wonder if w-e would eat food…. #….with me?
NAILED IT
#tumblr’s all-seeing shipping eye has yet to land on mentemmortaliatangunt #sad troll blogs in the snow #days of our trolls
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So I am going to change from saying "allosexual"...
metapianycist:
My older posts will still bear “allosexism” and “allosexual” as tags and in the text, but I’m going to add “alisexism” and “alisexual” as tags to those relevant posts.
The ali- prefix in “alisexual” is the Latin root for “other,” which is a cognate to the Greek allo- prefix. Using the Latin root rather than the Greek to avoid confusion with the Quebecois French word “allosexuel,”...
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epochryphal:
tiny musings post: i really like the word “romantisexual” as an avoidance of the allosexual/consexual/*sexual issue.
unfortunately that becomes complicated for folks who are not romantic: aromantisexual, demiromanti-sexual (where would a hyphen go?), gray-romantisexual….
plus sometimes we will just want to talk about folks who are allo/con/*sexual, regardless of their romantic...
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Sensual and sexual attractions, or, Elephants are...
minionier:
No not really but shut up I like evolutionary relationships okay.
Invisible elephant explanation of sexual attraction.
Upfront sex-related disclosure: I am demisexual and I’ve experienced sexual attraction towards two people in my life, which for me means I’m functionally asexual for a huge majority of the time. I am sex-repulsed (except while experiencing sexual attraction). I am...
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zarabithia:
(insert facepalm graphic here.) So let’s review. Whenever bisexual and/or pansexual people are talking about the shitty behavior of monosexuals - gay, lesbian or straight - towards us, if you are not bisexual or pansexual, you do not have a voice in the conversation. It is not about you. If you try to make it about you, you are doing the same shitty thing where white people enter a...
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reiish:
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I’ve been reading a lot of posts about virgin-shaming and stuff lately, and it’s getting me kind of worried. I’ve never even kissed anyone, or had a boyfriend, much less had sex. This is all by choice, and I’m happy with it, and don’t really see what the big deal is, but do people really make fun of you for that? Is that what I have to look forward to if I ever do get in a...
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Children's Shows Don't Belong to You
jmandrake:
We’ve all seen the theories, repeated and twisted ad nauseum to fit nearly every children’s show. Angelica dreamed up the other Rugrats. Even the humans at Foster’s Home for Imaginary Friends were imaginary. The events that took place in Codename: Kids Next Door were just kids playing make believe. Phineas and Ferb exist only in Candace’s head. Ash Ketchum was just in a coma. Harry...
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orangeasaurus:
metapianycist:
Personally, I would like it if the “Asexual Pirates are Not Interested in Your Booty” would stop going around the ace tags, because it excludes a lot of asexuals, particularly the ones who happen to enjoy sex.
I spoke earlier today during an asexual-related workshop at the Transcending Boundaries conference that although I don’t experience sexual attraction, if a...
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re: femme flagging
elphias-doge:
i know it’s hardly caught on but
am i the only person who thinks that it would make MORE sense NOT to paint the nails on the fingers that you use to fuck?
cause, you know, that shit chips off?? and i for one do NOT want that to happen while fucking, cause who knows that kind of messed-up side effects that might have. jsf. o_o
like surely it makes the most sense to have a nice...
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SUDDEN IDEA
stopanthropomorphizingme:
you know how there’s lgbtfest over on LJ? what if there was an acefest, too? and/or arofest? do these already exist? is anyone interested? i have found the asexy valentines fest, but it’s focused pretty much just on asexual romance, and what about demisexuality and grey-a and aromanticism and queerplatonic relationships? i just really want this, okay?
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ponticat:
earthyqueer:
superyouandinvisibleme:
“You can’t be asexual because you don’t reproduce by self-replicating” is basically the same argument as “Your nose can’t be running because it doesn’t have feet.”
oh my god
this is going on my list of fave asexual posts
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obnoxiouswatermark:
actuallyasexual:
obnoxiouswatermark:
actuallyasexual:
So telling an ace they might be grey in ten years isn’t telling an ace they’ll “get over it”? Keep living in your fantasy world, bub. Where I’m from words have meanings.
No. It’s not. It’s a simple reflection of reality: they may, at some point in the future, experience sexual attraction. This is not a statement of...
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metapianycist:
Once upon a time some people on a little-known RP forum used the word “demisexuality” in their fiction writing to refer to sexuality that requires magical soul-bonding prior to sexual attraction.
In another time and place on a small and little-known asexual forum (either at the same time or soon after), people chose the word “demisexual¨ to refer to the real phenomenon of being...
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I don't want to show my stupid, but I will.
factualwiley:
First off, check these three images.
Oh God, this betch.
Well, here’s the chick from the last screen-cap
So here’s the poll from the 2004 RP forum
Also, as a little bit more proof, here’s the Demisexual Google trend.
In the early 2000s and farther back, you won’t find much about the proclaimed sexuality that is known as Demisexual. That’s because, the truth is… Demisexual...
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order-of-whispers:
So we have an update concerning Tumblr user Watchful-Entity.
Even though Watchful-Entity was rightfully banned recently, they have remade their account under the handle ‘wachsam-eigenheit’. Not only is it hilariously not even translated correctly, but of course, that means they are circumventing their ban and you should all block and report them for harassment,...
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i don't like feminists using "asshole" in a...
fromonesurvivortoanother:
whims-of-a-ludoninja:
iwillnotshavemyvagina:
fromonesurvivortoanother:
because it implies that assholes are somehow bad things, which contributes to a culture of body-hating.
it’s probably homophobic. it also has some implications for other people who enjoy assholes. so it contributes to a culture of penis-in-vagina heterocentrism.
i’m serious. find other...
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“She wants to know if I love her, that’s all anyone wants from anyone else, not...”
– - Jonathan Safran Foer
I think Lithromantics want to be those batteries, they want to give that person love but they just dont need to have their own set of batteries- to have that love returned to them back.
submitted by anonymous
(via lithromantic)
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an actual real problem with tumblr's userbase
queenston:
i wanna talk about something that i’m sure nobody here is about to take kindly to. it’s something that i’ve actively told myself i won’t even talk about on tumblr because tumblr’s typical idea of “social justice” is an ass-backward venomous screaming match between children. but it’s something that’s actively effected me, so.
over the course of the past few months i’ve noticed a...
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explodingcrayon:
Managed to write up an entire flow chart explaining how to have a civil, friendly conversation with an asexual about (their) asexuality.
Then I realized that this is total fucking bullshit that most of the “dead end” conversation bits have to do with complete disbelief that asexuality even exists.
I mean, what the fuck? People don’t question heterosexuals, bisexuals,...
