"i hate social justice warriors," when translated from shitbaby language, means
"i do not like when people point out deeply harmful aspects of society that facilitate the oppression and murder of marginalized people, because i am not interested in caring about people who are not like me. i am…
Nah it means “I hate cunty people” "I hate people who doxx others for silly reasons" "I hate people who put the blame on anybody who isn’t in a minority" "I hate people who find everything offensive and want to get rid of practically everything" "I hate people who play the Oppression Olympics to invalidate people who aren’t "as oppressed"" That’s what it means
"how fucked up and sex obsessed is our society that we will literally hate people and leave them homeless because they don’t wanna fuck????" pls explain
i believe i wrote this on a research article that found people are untrusting of asexual people and that they were more likely to not take people in as room mates if they discovered they were asexual and that a good portion of people would literally deny someone housing for being asexual
as in deny people housing because they aren’t interested in sex
i believe American cultural (and a lot of western cultures in general) are heavily obsessed with sex and sexuality and that someone who lacks a desire for it completely breaks away from that.
and because of that obsession we’d rather see asexual people homeless because we’re so wrapped up with fucking that the existence of people who don’t care about it apparently drives non-asexual people mad
my best friend and I have referred to ourselves as "moirails" from the webcomic Homestuck for a few months now and we were talking about sexuality and romantic orientation (I'm homoromantic-asexual and she's bisexual) and the subject of qprs came up and she said "that's us!" and yay that's great but i feel like she doesn't really get that it's as important as a romantic relationship/doesnt really understand it and i don't know how to bring it up and ugh help
Well Anon, if you’re really not sure that you and your partner are on the same page the best thing is to have a talk about it. Talk about the way you feel about her and ask how she feels about you. Talk about what queerplatonic means to you and ask what it means to her. Talk about the feeling that you have that she doesn’t quite understand what you mean and explain what you think she may not understand.
As for how to bring it up, yeah, I understand, conversations like this are hard to have and can feel a bit awkward. I find that it helps if you acknowledge how awkward it is. You might like to try a direct approach where you tell her you’ve got something you want to ask/talk to her about and then just say that you think she and you might not be on the same page about the seriousness of your relationship. If you’d prefer to bring it up a bit more casually you could, for example, bring up the quadrants from which you got moirail and talk about how each quadrant is equally important (if that’s how you understand it to be, I know very little about the Homestuck trolls and their romances). Or perhaps, talk about a queerplatonic ship you have and compare it to a romantic ship you have and show how they are equally important (the example of QP!Sherlock/John and Romantic!John/Mary from BBC Sherlock occurs to me but you may have others).
I find it most useful to be direct when talking about such important things as the state of your relationship but that may not be your style. I do recommend making sure she has understood after the discussion so that you don’t feel this sort of insecurity again.
for sake of argument i'll agree with your point about asexuals not being discriminated against, but even without oppression we do still experience erasure, violence, on a daily basis we can be made to feel """"wrong"""". Coming out as asexual the chances of getting a positive and understanding reaction isn't very high- sound familiar? just like the rest of the lgbt+ community we need support and awareness. also a lot of what you say is enforcing negative stereotypes people have about us
I have no problem with people creating their own asexual community. Here’s the thing, I have a lot of problems with the support and awareness that goes around in the community when it’s really toxic and ignores a lot of facts.
For instance, it is a fact that low or no sex drive can be caused by medications or medical conditions, but to suggest such a fact is considered offensive. Sex drive is not just like homosexuality, and so to think that suggesting a lack of sex drive may be medically based is not the same as doing the same to an LGB person with regards to their orientation. There are people who have no or low sex drive and it bothers them, and they don’t have to accept that about themselves in the name of some asexual solidarity. And I say this as someone who has low sex drive due to mental illness, thing is it doesn’t bother me so I don’t feel the need to do anything about it. But to the asexual community to suggest my lack of sex drive is a medical problem is the highest of offenses and one reason to be considered oppressed. It’s completely possible to be asexual with no medical reason, but to suggest that is 100% only possibility is factually wrong.
Furthermore, social pressures around sex are very fucking confusing and give a lot of mixed messages. The asexual community tends to focus on the hyper-sexual aspect of our society and completely ignores the sexually repressive part of our society. There is a lot of shame that goes with having sex, a lot of straight sex is discouraged unless it’s done in socially acceptable situations. Women are especially attacked for their sexuality, being called sluts for being sexually active or just perceived as so. And let’s not forget that gay sex is considered completely gross. To think these attitudes have absolutely nothing to do with why someone may look to asexuality is foolish. This shit doesn’t exist in a vacuum. There is absolutely no awareness of these social pressures and how it may affect why someone identifies as asexual.
Which brings me to another toxic problem, which this idea that identity is sacred. A persons sexual drive may be really complicated or change over time due to many factors, yet there is this impetus to label every aspect of sexual identity which has brought about absurd identities like grey-asexual and demisexual. This impetus for people to seemingly separate themselves from more sexually active people is nothing sort of slut shamming. This has also brought about people making exceptions for what asexuality really is that I’m not even sure anymore what asexuality really is supposed to be.
Lastly, there is no question in my mind that internet social justice has brought about the abomination of people claiming queer as some means of gaining oppression points, and the asexual community gladly welcomes them. There is a sickening side of social justice where people view oppression as something cool and want to find anyway to not take ownership of their privilege. I see so many people claim the demisexual label like it’s a relief to be able to call themselves queer without any of the consequences of actually being queer. This goes unchecked in the asexual community, especially since they think they’re queer to begin with.
I don’t feel I’m perpetuating negative stereotypes, but criticizing a highly toxic community that is also trying to appropriate the experiences of the queer community.
I am a libidoist aro ace, and I wanted to bring up a topic I haven't seen discussed much on your blog. Despite surprisingly widespread assumptions to the contrary, orientation ≠ behavior. Some asexuals want sex, and are no less ace for it. Specifically, I would like to hear your thoughts on aces being in "friends with benefits" type relations with other people, be they ace/aro or no. Since I feel obligated to end with a thanks, "I always enjoy reading your thoughts, please keep posting them."
I’m pretty sure the idea of asexual people who want sex blows people’s minds mostly because they don’t understand why a person who wants sex would use the word “asexual.” Like, what would that person have to gain from communicating that they are asexual if they are also interested in sex?
I understand that this blows people’s minds, but I’m still pretty perplexed as to why it does. I see no contradiction between liking an activity and liking the person you do it with. Like, I can totally like eating food but not like the person I’m going out to dinner with, and you wouldn’t tell me “I just don’t see why you would use the title ‘restaurant enthusiast’ if you don’t enjoy the company of the person you went to the restaurant with!” Like, really? People can’t accept that enjoying an activity is not the same thing as having any particular feelings about the person you do that activity with?
I know two gay men who have openly admitted that they liked the blowjob they got from a woman. Said blowjob did not make them attracted to her. It’s not some kind of rule that you have to be horrified by or repulsed by the touch of a woman if you’re a gay guy who’s sexually attracted to men.
Since most people who enjoy sex seem to prefer having that sex with people they’re sexually attracted to—and since many of them are actually inspired to want sex directly because of sexual attraction to a person—they furrow their brows and say but waiiiiit, you = asexual, therefore why sex????
It’s true that some people don’t find identifying as asexual useful if they do indeed like sex, and that’s up to them. But there is a word for not experiencing sexual attraction. That’s “asexual.” Whether you like sex itself and are willing to have it or ENJOY having it is not always related to whether you experience sexual attraction. And when people protest the practicality or reality of this, I always shake my head. People who do experience sexual attraction sometimes have sex for the same reasons asexual people do. Sometimes people are horny, or feel like having sex, or have sex offered to them and think “hey why not?” By going through with the act, you are not automatically saying “the reason I am doing this is because I find you sexually attractive.” What the hell, people?
but what if demisexual panromantic!Scott and pansexual demiromantic!Isaac though. wHAT IF.
Scott and Isaac having to negotiate their relationship and the goings on within it and their boundaries and their expectations of each other.
Scott and Isaac having to consider not just each other’s feelings but also their own and more so than usual because of how important their own mixed up myriad feelings on the issue of their relationship and its evolution.
Scott and Isaac trying not to pressure each other because they want to respect each other as people but also trying to get their own needs met and having to find some way to meet each other in the middle or find some new way of doing things that makes both of them happy.
Scott and Isaac having to confront their own mistaken preconceived notions about each other’s identities and how they work and what they mean.
(“so wait how are you any kind of asexual if you have sex with people” “that’s not… look it’s kind of weird sexually okay and demisexual works best for right now but that’s just about experiencing sexual *attraction* not about having a sex drive or wanting to have sex for other reasons” “isn’t that like consent issues though kind of” “no? how is it a consent issue if i’m explicitly enthusiastically consenting and it’s not coerced or manipulated, it’s just that i really want to make someone else feel good sexually and maybe have an orgasm too”)
(“yeah well while we’re on the subject of not getting each other right can you stop telling your mom that we’re not dating” “but like… are we dating?” “why wouldn’t we be dating? we go out together, we do things and we have sex sometimes when you feel like it and our relationship isn’t exactly friendship how is that not dating” “yeah okay but like…” “yeah okay but like what, scott?” “well yeah i see where you’re coming from but it’s just weird to call it dating when it’s not—” “but it IS dating, i just told you how it IS. dating." "hey let me finish please? like i was trying to say it’s just weird to call it dating when it’s not like any other kind of dating i’ve done before"
"why? is it because i still fuck erica and boyd or is it because i’m not writing you a sonnet about how your eyes are nothing like the sun but i love you because of that. or is it both. and if you’re really hung up on getting your poetry repaid with poetry from me then i’ll try but it’s gonna suck because i’m a sculptor and i don’t have the sort of feelings that go into a poem like that" "yeah because poems can only ever be about romantic love" "well all of yours are about romantic love" "yes! because that’s my primary way of understanding relationships because sexual attraction is all wibbly wobbly and not really happening that often for me”)
demisexual panromantic!Scott and pansexual demiromantic!Isaac!!!
I’m going to have to disagree with you there. Sexuality is full of grey areas and I have no problem with people picking the label that they feel fits them best even if they do not fit in with everyone’s ideas of what that sexuality is. There are a number of reasons why someone might desire sex and still consider themselves asexual. For example, it’s possible to enjoy sex as a physical sensation/activity but not necessarily sexually desire another person.
That said, yeah, referring to people as “sexual[s]” is super gross and you should never ever do it unless the person you are talking about wants you to.
those grey areas are pretty much a normal part of human sexuality. by AVEN’s definition I’d be “demisexual” This new definition of asexuality that includes people enjoying sex but not WANTING sex is really creepy and not something that should be embraced uncritically. I’ve never seen a definition of “sexual attraction” as opposed to wanting and enjoying sex that wasn’t nebulous and pretty triggering.
Except that you’re the one who is telling people that they can’t be ace if they want sex and erasing the grey areas here. You are the one who is defining it in a way that should be criticized. Disgracefullyriversong put it in pretty much the same way I did: “people can have sex without experiencing sexual attraction.” You’re the only one here who is assuming that asexuals can never actively pursue or enthusiastically want sex.You’re defining all asexual experiences that don’t fit with your beliefs about how problematic it is out of existence.
If some asexuals are having sex that they don’t really want to have, we should discuss that in the context of rape culture and place the blame firmly on their partners who are raping them, not on the asexuals who are being raped. Making asexuality the problem in a situation where asexuals are the ones being victimized is victim-blaming and gross.
I’ve got problems with both ‘demisexual’ and ‘sapiosexual’ as labels because they hyper-sexualize all other sexualities, but that’s got nothing to do with whether or not ace people can want sex.
This wording is really, really fucked up. You can identify as ace for whatever reason you want, but allosexual people do not “think constantly about sex,” and the implication that we do is really gross and offensive.
After rereading Catching Fire, I am convinced that Katniss Everdeen is demisexual.
In the scene where she first encounters all the other victors, they try to throw her off by kissing, flirting, stripping and Peeta explains it’s because she’s so sort of ‘innocent’, like how she would not look at him naked in the arena even when he was dying. It shows that there is something different about her and everyone else is aware of it.
She mentions in a slightly puzzled manner that she had never found Finnick Odair attractive and she wasn’t sure why. And she never uses language hinting at physical response to anyone, not even Peeta and Gale. In fact, she specifically mentions how Peeta’s kisses calm her because they are a show of affection. When she mentions kissing Gale, it is always as some sort of declaration of allegience, showing him she has chosen him over Peeta.
But one of the main reasons I think Katniss is demisexual, is that when she kisses Peeta on the beach in the arena, a big deal is made about how she, for the first time, enjoys the act of kissing, it’s the first time she seems to sense any kind of physical desire. And this is only after, as she mentions on the train, she has let go of everyone at home, of Gale, and let herself find comfort and partnership in Peeta, convinced she will die. Only after becoming very emotionally entwined with Peeta, sleeping in his arms, finding comfort at his touch, does she specifically mention anything about any form olf desire.
For Katniss kisses and physical affection like that are largely described as a sort of tactic. It takes a real connection for her to refer to them in any other way. When describing appearance she also seems to speak with a somewhat objective air. And she also repeatedly mentions how she has no idea how to be sexy or flirtatious etc.
Hey. You are really progressive and I think it's awesome that you promote equality and acceptance. However, part of me starts to feel uneasy when you reblog things about how creepy Fedoras are. Isn't that the same as judging someone based on their skin color/bodies as opposed to the contents of their characters? Lemme know.
You’ll notice that we are not shitting on fedoras themselves, but the kind of men that are associated WITH the fedora (even though is is a misconception that the fedora is a douchebag hat- as it is actually the trilby). If someone likes wearing a fedora and is indeed a nice person and not prone to “nice guy” fuckery, I would not think twice about it. But sadly that hat has been tainted by a certain brand of man just like shutter shades have been stolen by lame ‘spring break’ type teenagers.
And no, judging someone on a damn hat is not the same as judging race/body type etc.
In the end if the abuse happens to be too much, you can take off the damn fedora, you cannot take off your race of change your body type with a snap of your fingers.
Way different. And it’s quite insulting to compare the two.
wait refresh me, whats this about the x kit guy? forgive im lost
so basically someone on here was very triggered by the april fools day video, because it generally did possess some potentially triggering content, and people didn’t necessarily agree, and neither did the xkit guy, which is pretty damn ironic considering he created the blacklist feature, and he’s being very rude about it and basically says that it’s okay for him “to make fun of people with triggers and disabilities since he’s provided a tool to help them”
Seriously, defend lithromantic/lithsexual people to the grave because they constantly get told they’re just trying to be special but they are really really important parts of the aromantic and asexual communities. So, yeah. Defend lith people. Lith people are important.
#genn don’t look#lithromanticism#lithsexuality#(i kept calling it lithrosexuality for the longest time gosh words are hard)#anyone remember the time theroguefeminist called lithro/lithsexual ‘rapey’ and then gave a shit apology#and basically continued to invalidate lith ppl? no? because i sure as hell do#rape mention in tags
a shit clarification that invalidated lith ppl as a whole because gooooooosh we have enough identities to keep up with alreadyyyyyy
and then weirdly enough like, dragged them into a discussion about otherkin (surprise, they don’t believe in otherkin either)? i dont understand ??????but if you’re otherkin or lith then uh i’d rec avoiding them
#idk how the fuck to tag this #im not otherkin or lith but by god i will defend my otherkin and lith friends to the death #death mention in tags #if u wanna see the otherkin thing google it urself i am spoonless and i dont want TRF fans coming after me
Seriously, defend lithromantic/lithsexual people to the grave because they constantly get told they’re just trying to be special but they are really really important parts of the aromantic and asexual…
they are not queer unless they are also lgbt
(in which case there’s another word for it already assuming they’re women, but being litho doesn’t make you queer!!)
Liths fall under the ace/aro spectrum which is a part of lgbt, so how are they not queer (if they choose to ID that way) I’m rly confused?
Oh you’re one of those people who police ace/aro identities and excludes them yeah I’m not gonna bother anymore :/ I’m not gonna tolerate someone delegitimising individuals who already have enough to deal with *shrug*
You're tagging things as scopophobia who aren't scopophobia. Pokemon looking at the viewers don't do anything to people with scopophobia.
better safe than sorry though, right? ;v; i’m not affected by these things, so i have no way of knowing if something can be placed under the scopophobia tag, but i’d rather tag it and make sure my followers are safe, even if it’s not so triggering!!
Seriously, defend lithromantic/lithsexual people to the grave because they constantly get told they’re just trying to be special but they are really really important parts of the aromantic and asexual communities. So, yeah. Defend lith people. Lith people are important.
Welcome to How to Flirt (For Asexuals)! This blog is for asexuals searching for tips — “AceTips” — on how to flirt with a special person of interest.
As a person who identifies as asexual, I find it difficult to express to certain people that I am interested in their company, while suggesting that it shouldn’t be anything more than a romantic relationship (ie. physical, sexual, or otherwise.).
Of course, some asexuals find it easy to flirt in the same manner as allosexual people might, because they still may be looking for physical/sexual relationships. However, I imagine there’s still a handful of other asexuals that find it a little tricky — between mixed messages and jumbled gestures, it’s sure to get a little tedious.
So stay tuned, because on Monday the tips begin, and every Monday following! Please, please submit your own AceTips as well, seeing as I’m probably not fully equipped to come up with a lot. Other content you can expect to see on this blog includes posts that promote asexuality awareness, photos, links to other media, and more! Also, check out my about and disclaimer page.
Friendly reminder ԅ(≖‿≖ԅ) that if you don’t sleep with someone for the sole reason that they’re HIV positive then you AREbeing discriminatory towards a human being with a disease and you’re scum of the earth ｡◕‿◕｡ It’s basically as bad as saying you couldn’t love somebody with cancer. Respect people’s feelings. (◕‿◕✿)
Is it possible that this is a real thing. Could it?
Like I accept that the post is a joke, but ????
OP meant it as a joke, but this is part of current HIV advocacy.
And yes, deciding not to sleep with someone you would otherwise be interested in sleeping with is serophobic. It is not based on a rational assessment of risk; it’s based on the outdated perception of what living with HIV looks like combined with the general loathing that society has for HIV+ people.
And no, no one is trying to guilt you into sleeping with an HIV+ person. This is not a consent issue. You are allowed to have irrational or harmful sexual preferences. But we are going to call them out.
So, I'm just making sure that i fit the label I'm putting myself in (panromantic demisexual). I'm attracted to any and all genders. But the thing is, I've only had three crushes my whole life. These crushes have only ever been on people that I've known and been friends with for at least 4 or 5 months before I started having sexual attraction to. They've all been guys, but I know I'd go out with a girl or anything in between too. It's all about the connection. Is this the right label? Thanks! ~<3
Yup, sounds about right to me. If you feel like your romantic attraction also only happens after getting to know someone well, you might also be demiromantic.
I don’t think people entirely understand how connected my muses and I are.
It they hurt, I hurt.
If they’re happy, I’m happy.
If they’re sad, I’m sad.
If they’re angry, I’m angry.
Their connections are my connections.
Their friends are my friends.
Their family are my family.
When my muse is upset, it can take days or even weeks for me to get them to cooperate again.
If my muse suffers a loss, it’s going to take a while for them to go through the grieving process, and it’s not going to be pretty or something I’ll force them through. There are losses they’ll recover from, and losses they won’t…
If my muse breaks…I will break…and I won’t be at all surprised if I can’t ever get them back.
My muses aren’t just characters I play…they aren’t just fictional little things of pretend…
I love them all like my children, my siblings, even parental figures in some cases…
They’re each a piece of my mind, my heart, and my very soul…the very core of who I am… My muses are pieces of me…
So when I trust you with my muses, I’m trusting you with me.
Shoutout to all you lovely demis and grayaces being pushed out by your own community. As a fellow asexual, my ask box and inbox are always welcome to you. Stop by to chat or rant or vent or whatever anytime! <3
it/it/its/itself (this one to be used ONLY IF YOU’RE EXPLICITLY TOLD THAT IT IS OKAY)
this one/ that one
use of name in place of pronouns, absence of pronouns
alternation between any subset of the pronouns listed above, i.e. between xe and he and she, or they and she, etc.
use of combination of pronouns listed above, selecting different declensions from different pronoun sets, i.e. xe/faer/faers/themself
Use the pronouns people ask you to use, always
Please feel free to add your own or any ones that I missed
I haven’t heard of some of these! I’d love to know what fae/faer/faers/faerself stands in for
The fae pronouns were coined by a friend who’s gender stands somewhere between angel and fae-creature, and they are derived from the word “fae” as in fairy
I’m a bit confused—what I know of the Kind Ones and angels of any sort are that they are a lot of times genderless but sometimes binaried? And that there seems to be a spectrum? I’m really curious about this as a fellow non-binary!
I describe faer gender this way in part because that is the way fae describes it to me, and in part because if you met faer, it would make a lot of sense, fae /feels/ otherworldly and fae moves like dancing. I’m not well versed in any sort of lore so I’m afraid I can’t really give you a more detailed answer.
Why did I choose fae/vaer as my pronouns?
Because I am fae. I am described as such by people who don’t know me — fae and feline and not-exactly-human. I do identify as faen, and in some ways angel as well, and fae and angel are the goals of my presentation. My choice of fae as a pronoun reflects this.
Using fae as a pronoun started out half a joke, a 1am offhand comment that fae would be one of the only things I could use as a pronoun and identify with. The next morning, it wasn’t so much a joke anymore, and by the end of the day my girlfriend and I had come up with how fae would work as a pronoun.
To address the point about fae as binary or not — it depends on your source material. My personal view on this is that fae and fae creatures as stand outside the binary. They probably have some form of gender, but it’s most definitely not our human binary. Angels, on the other hand, are genderless. They have no sex and they have no gender. Together, fae and angels are the two sides of androgyny that are possible, and kind of form a secondary arc around the male/female binary: that of gendered/genderless.
…so in some ways, I’m using fae as a giant ‘fuck you’ to the gender binary and a refusal of much of the American culture surrounding gender. My gender is yes. Except when it’s no. Either way, it’s not male or female and using a pronoun that is very associated with creatures that stand outside humankind is, for me at least, a very good way to remind people of this constantly.
Reblogging so the people who were talking about the pronouns may see it,
Please take Eidolan’s word over mine in any place my information conflicts and/or was incomplete, the pronouns fae/faer/faers/faerself originated with faer.
For those of you who wanted to know more about the fae set of pronouns
hi please don’t tag or caption my crush comic as “this is me” or “this person is me” or a variant of that. It’s a journal comic so the person is literally ME, not some character, and tbh it makes me very uncomfortable seeing a drawing of myself being labeled as “actually me” by other ppl.
isn't tagging a comic or image or something else with "me" or some variation on it just a shorthand way that people use to say that they identify similarly? i mean i'm pretty sure a whole load of the people who're reblogging your comic aren't like "oh look at this specific person's reaction to a crush" they're more likely to be "hey look this person reacts the same way i do to a crush, i'll tag it as 'this is me' even tho it's obviously not" (idk i don't think they're doing it spitefully?)
i never thought anyone was doing this spitefully and yeah, i understand it’s short for saying they relate but it still makes me uncomfortable.
I’m not mad or confused abt it, i’m just super uncomfortable when i see ppl tagging drawings of myself like this.
EDIT: I don’t want this to turn into a Big Thing so no more msgs about this, please. Either respect what I’m asking for by not tagging drawings of me as “this is me” or don’t.
I really hate how a lot of things are framed as good because they boost your self-confidence. For example, makeup. Many people refuse any criticism of makeup because it makes them feel more confident, have better self-esteem, makes them feel more comfortable, ect. but…
um i do not like this kind of shit coming from non-femmes.
"i hate social justice warriors," when translated from shitbaby language, means
"i do not like when people point out deeply harmful aspects of society that facilitate the oppression and murder of marginalized people, because i am not interested in caring about people…
Incredibly on point even though “shitbaby” is ageist
Shitbaby is ageist? dying rn
It probably also kinkshames people who are into shitting into a diaper (nonsexually)
and it just gets better
what are you people even
no the ageism (and ableism btw) is because people with incontinence issues are often infantilised and made to feel childish for a physical issue they have. often these people are elderly or sick.
Possible unpopular opinion alert: That we do this to the incontinent is shameful. The incontinent get grief for the understuff they
have to wear and often are shamed the point of identifying with ABDL culture to cope.
I went to school with a kid with multiple special needs (Down Syndrome/ASD under modern criteria) who willingly chose to stay in diapers. I also have known people who choose to do such. Why should we give people shame on their understuff? Does the boyshorts crowd shame the granny panties gang? Does the boxer brief bunch shame the straight boxers group?
Underwear is underwear, whether if from Cincinnati or wherever or whatever it’s made from.
Futanari basically means born and identifying as female, but with a penis, whether born with it or not. So it is different from trans. If you want to be really specific it means she has both a penis and a vagina, but other than the penis is totally female (and thus different intersex as well). Futanari also isn't just a "male fetish" as there are many non-male people who enjoy it as well. But it is generally accepted that there is a distinct difference between futanari/newhalf and transwomen.
That’s what I thought, hence my confusion. My intent in drawing Elsa with a penis wasn’t to portray a realistic trans or intersex person, but rather what you described. That being said, I understand that the porn industry overall is not at all kind or considerate of actual trans folks, and regardless of my idea of what “futanari” means or represents it will carry different connotations to different people.
can we please fucking destroy the idea that pansexuals are automatically flirty and that asexuals are incapable of flirting or being outgoing and romantically social? can we please clarify that these stereotypes are just as incorrect as the stereotype that all gays are sassy and all lesbians are masculines? please??
pokekin are so great oh my gosh i mean just think about it you can hug your favorite pokemon you can give them forehead kisses that’s so great i love pokekin
it’d be so so cool to make poffins or pokepuffs or candy berries together and they’d be delicious and super cute and you could even feed them to each other and be extra adorable
and you can discuss all those pokemon theories together and talk about the different pokemon types and play the games together and maybe even make a cosplay for their kintype
and depending on their type you could do lots of cool activities together, you could visit a stream with a water type or a forest with a grass type and you could sit out in nature and discuss what the inside of pokeballs might be like
I’d just like to leave a friendly reminder that not all aces dislike sex or have sex just to please their partners. Some aces have sex because they enjoy having sex. It sometimes seems to get lost that there are some aces who aren’t sex repulsed or indifferent. I mean, I identify as ace and I can vary from thinking sex is the bee’s knees to disinterest. Thank you and have a lovely day, friends!
If you do not like otherkin people, please just leave them be. Unless one is directly bothering you, you are merely being an Internet troll, and making an asshole of yourself. If you bully me for being otherkin, I will report you for harassment.
Just because you do not understand something does not give you the right to mock it and bully people for it. I am astonished at how many of my recent bullies on Tumblr have been GLBT people, even some transgender people. Of all the people to bully someone for how they feel inside, I would have thought GLBT people would have been the last to do so. Do you not know, intimately, how it feels to be belittled so? I think you do. And therefore, I do not understand why you would “pay it backwards,” to coin a phrase.
I do not care how weird you think I am. I speak from my heart; I do not do this for attention any more than a transgender person or gay person does it for attention. My feelings and my frustrations are as real as yours are. I am not bothering you, so why are you bothering me?
to say that “platonic sex isnt a thing” or to joke about people on tumblr wanting sex or other physical affection in a platonic way implies that sex is inherently romantic and romanticism is inherently sexual. lets throw aromantic people and asexual people under the bus. super fun. LOVING this.
I’m never sure how to respond when PoC call out racism using ableist slurs or insults. I’m Disabled and usually feel comfortable calling out ableism because of that, but when I see a PoC talking about “racist id*ots” or whatnot I always feel like I can’t speak up because I’m white.
Before I post this question I wish to say that this is in no way hate of any form towards to consept of “cute pronouns”
My question isn’t about the pronouns themselves but the name we have chosen to give them. I find “cute pronouns” sound alittle on the silly side and I have seen alot of people ignore them because of it. Saying things like “Your pronouns aren’t an accessorie”
Do you guys think we should name them something more professional sounding like “neutral pronouns” or “Alternative Pronouns”?
Reaching down into the source Of this strange aversion Of the lumbering motive force Of my disperversion My disinterest in the sex act My utter boredom at her body That I can hardly express with tact When she speaks of things so naughty The mindless, tedious endless droll Mortifies me to ponder Strikes me to my very soul When I allow my thoughts to wander Onto that forbidden topic Your genitals make me sick
making fun of gullible teenagers who misuse social justice concepts is not social justice.
i do not care whether otherkin/fictives/etc people who, really, are merely describing unusual brain-states that i too might have latched onto as a younger person, are ‘oppressed’. probably not, i guess. but they sure are Weird. if i twisted it a little different i could call myself a scully fictive, or something. and the hatred of Weird is not only tied to ableism but is just mean in general.
so YEAH obvs somebody who is making privilege checklists about ‘human’ or ‘real’ privilege is Wrong, i.e. vastly misinterpreting what ‘privilege’ means, but may i remind you again that privilege is a hard concept and these people are reacting to alienation and ridicule and it’s not their fault that a warped, simplistic ‘social justice’ ideology is rampant on tumblr and incredibly easy to misuse.
like by all means try to correct people if you believe they would be receptive, but don’t make fun of someone for stuff that is just Weird. that makes you mean. if you’re going to object, at least object to the part that is wrong, the misuse of privilege/oppression rhetoric. it’s not wrong to believe you are a fictional character. I KNOW! SHOCKER. IT ACTUALLY DOESN’T HURT ANYONE, NOT INHERENTLY. THAT IS NOT THE ISSUE HERE.
If someone tells you to listen to a song, listen to it. It may be the worst song you have ever heard but they wanted to share it with you. That is really special. If it makes them feel a certain way and they are so adamant about you hearing it, take 5 minutes to hear it. It shows a lot about someone.
Demisexual = you only like people you have formed an emotional bond with
One of these things is not like the other. The last one not only has nothing to do with gender, it’s a common enough trait in humans for it to neither be oppressed or be anything unusual, and does not deserve its own addition into the LGBT acronym. Good day.
Actually, it’s more like this:
Homosexual = Sexually attracted to the same gender
Heterosexual = Sexually attracted to the “opposite” gender
Bisexual = Sexually attracted to two or more genders, normally including your own
Asexual = Not sexually attracted to any gender
Demisexual = Sexually attracted to people only after a strong emotional bond has been formed
You ignored a few sexualities (polysexual, pansexual, omnisexual, skoliosexual, etc.) and every romantic preference, and you also equated sex and gender. There are more than two genders. There are also more than two sexes.
Demisexuality is a sexual minority, so Demisexual people should be included in the community, even if there is debate over whether Demisexuality should be included in the acronym. (Think GSRM vs LGBTQIA+)
“First…. Many Indigenous Nations have calendars which have
been counting the years for a very long time. I am aware that
the calendar of the Mohawk Indian Nation has been counting
the winters for over 33,120 years. This pre-dates the so-called
‘land-bridge’ of the Bering Strait theory, unless, of course, the
Bering Strait scientists decide to move their interestingly illusive
time period for “early migration” of Indians back to 40,000 years!
Many American Indian early histories tell of events that took
place on this Turtle continent (North America) long before any
so-called ice age. But, for political reasons, these histories
have been mostly ignored. You see, the Bering Strait, in truth,
is a theory that was born of the politics and propaganda of
early America. In the midst of the American ‘Manifest Destiny’
social climate, the Bering Strait theory provided a ‘scientific’
means to justify the taking of ancestral Indian lands. In short,
the mythical theory eased the conscience, as it was a way for
land hungry immigrants to believe that, because Indian people
were only ‘recent inhabitants’ of this land , it was not really their
‘homeland’. Therefore Indians were, in their minds, not any more
the ‘original people’ of this land than they were. This was, and
still is, the political power of the infamous ‘Bering Strait theory’.”—
The B.S. (Bering Strait) Myth By John Two-Hawks
The Bering Strait Theory was made to make colonialism seem less like exploitation.
So as some of you may have noticed, for April Fools day I became my enemy: the stereotypical, perpetually offended tumblr social justice warrior
I’m honestly shocked by how much attention I got. It was refreshing, honestly, to see so many people call me out on my bullshit. The things I was posting were obviously incredibly offensive to any rational thinkers, but the fact that everyone believed me shows that those insane views aren’t unusual on this site. I didn’t go full-retard but I think I lashed out at every single type of person I could while playing up my own false sources of oppression
I was obviously in on the joke, but what terrifies me is the people who are dead serious with this shit. Like I said, I couldn’t believe how much attention these posts got. Everything I posted got a bunch of notes including a few posts that got dozens within a couple hours. Most of these were reblogs angrily calling out my flawed logic. Since I’m a logical person I agreed with these folks, but actually being in the position of the poster and having dozens of people call me out on reblogs and in the form of dozens of messages, I can easily see why people become SJWs
If I were an actual SJW, this barrage of opposition would have done nothing but fuel my victim complex, which is a trademark characteristic of the SJW. Being able to blame all of my problems on the patriarchy, white people, thin people, sane people, etc. made it so that it was IMPOSSIBLE for me to lose an argument using SJW logic. I can see how it could feel liberating to silence all of your opponents by labelling them as a rapist or a sexist or whatever. Being underprivileged most definitely gives you a considerable amount of power on this site. Furthermore, if you already have a victim complex and you believe your view on a topic to be the absolute truth, having dozens of people call you out would only make you feel more persecuted, thus strengthening your belief in your foolish world view. It’s kind of a vicious cycle that only life experience and maturity can break
I’m ranting now, but being an SJW for a day and actually walking in the shoes of the people I’ve spent the last couple years mocking really was an interesting experience. It was hilarious and I hope I didn’t alienate too many people who didn’t get the joke, but more importantly, I hope not too many people read my posts and agreed with them. I know for a fact those kind of people are out there. Now I know why. Being an SJW gives you an incredibly strong sense of self-importance. Posturing as an activist lets you tell yourself that you’re c hanging the world for the better. The truth though, is that this culture of society-blaming and echo chambers does nothing but distort these folks’ sense of reality and justice. I’m glad I’m not like them. Thank god for my white privilege :)
Andrew, you are a jackass and calling it an “april fools” joke doesn’t absolve you of that.
By the way, you were one of the main inspirations for my SJW persona. Thanks bae :-*